About me

From as far back as I remember I felt different. In a way, I am. But I'm not nearly as different as I once believed. I'm non-binary. Nowadays I love my gender difference, and see it as a part of my beauty. But that hasn't always been the case.

From childhood right through to my thirties, I believed that I was "weird" and "unloveable". These perceptions formed early in my life and the feelings of shame, sadness and terror that accompanied them were often overwhelming. I felt lost, alone, and empty inside.

I know now, that so much of my suffering was coming from conditioned perceptions. 

I felt completely alone and I had no idea how to live authentically and just be myself. My heart longed for deep connection, and the freedom to be myself.

There came a point where I felt that my life had to change. In 2003, I was inspired to seek out new experiences and hit the "reset" button to shake things up. I moved to China in the hope of learning something new about myself and beginning to find my place in the world. 

It took a few years in the metaphorical wilderness, but in 2008 I found meditation. Meditation practice, and the friendships I forged with other practitioners, were life changing. I finally began to feel nourished, accepted and loved by others.

Becoming a mindfulness teacher and psychotherapist felt right: a natural evolution after devoting many years to my personal healing and growth. I feel incredibly fortunate to have been helped by several wise and compassionate meditation teachers and therapists.

Doing this work, serving as a therapist and mindfulness teacher, is an extraordinary gift. I am paying forward the gifts my therapists and teachers have offered me, and I witness people's growth, compassion, vulnerability, courage and commitment to doing their work.

I know what it is like to suffer deeply, and this helps me understand the depth of your pain and struggle. Because I have also found my way out of the pain, I can provide hope as you develop the courage you need to move towards more self-compassion, self-acceptance and confidence.

I'm so glad I took the first step of my path of healing, growth and transformation. And every step since. They have led me to wholeness and love.

I don’t offer a “quick fix" and I never experienced one myself. You’re on a journey and I'm here with you for the long-haul to create meaningful and lasting change. I’m not for everyone, which is why I have shared some of my own story, to help give you a sense of who I am and whether you might like to work with me. You can also read more about my approach to therapy here, to help you decide.